There's More to Life Than Being Happy - The Atlantic

"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness."

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This article reminds me to stay in the moment even though it might mean enduring things that don't make me happy.  I believe that in many ways I have chosen meaning over happiness, but have been confused when meaning didn't equal happiness.  I am grateful for Victor Frankl and the way he lived his life.  I choose meaning.

The article quotes Frankl....
"This uniqueness and singleness which distinguishes each individual and gives a meaning to his existence has a bearing on creative work as much as it does on human love. When the impossibility of replacing a person is realized, it allows the responsibility which a man has for his existence and its continuance to appear in all its magnitude. A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the "why" for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any "how.""

Follow the link below to the full article:
There's More to Life Than Being Happy - The Atlantic

How do you find meaning?

Be Generous

Interesting articles here and here.  I wish I had a generosity scale to see how I am doing!  Fortunately my husband was the one that read these first and passed them on to me.  Maybe he'll come home with a present.  Here's to hopin'!

This is a refreshing approach to addressing bullying:

Fighting Bullying With Babies

Monogamy

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