Book Review: Hold Me Tight

Someone asked me the other day what I do when a couple comes to see me. I told her that with couples I use a research based method of practice called Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). Sue Johnson, the creator of EFT has published the book Hold Me Tight, which offers readers a refreshing new way of looking at their love relationships.

I would not recommend that distressed couples rely solely on this book, but it is a great resource to improve any marriage. The following is an excerpt from the description on the inside cover of her book:

"The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing and protection."

The book takes couples through seven conversations to help them become more attuned to their emotional connection with each other. These conversations will help couples to create a secure bond that will continue to grow over time.

Research proves EFT to be significantly more effective than other forms of couple therapy. I love how this book challenges the current culture of extreme individuality and personal independence. I think it takes more strength to rely on someone and to be relied on in return than it does to be independent. And the benefits are far greater! You can read more about EFT here.