From Gottman: Love Maps Exercise 2

The following is an exercise from Gottman's book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Exercise 2: Make Your Own Love Maps, p. 54

Use the following form to interview each other as if you were reporters. Take turns as listener and speaker, and write out the answers to these forms. Don't pass judgment on what our spouse tells you or try to give eachother advice. Remember that you are simply on a fact-finding mission. Your goal is to listen and learn about your mate.

The cast of characters in my partner's life

-Friends:

-Potential Friends:

-Rivals, competitors, "enemies"

Recent important events in my partner's life

Upcoming events

(What is my partner looking forward to? Dreading?

My partner's current stresses

My partner's current worries

My partner's hope and aspirations (for self? for others?)